Sex Life as Oxymoron
Whoever coined the term had a wicked sense of humor, didn’t they?
Whoever declared that it was all about Venus and Mars, despite good intentions, didn’t really solve the puzzle. Whatever happened to the rest, you know, family (if you need help on this one - read definition #7)?
About solving that puzzle, perhaps no one ever will. But that’s not what this post is about. This post is about looking at the pieces, some shattered, others shredded…all those pieces that are not conveniently wrapped and shipped to your doorstep. Not an easy or enviable task. The phrase, "No pain, no gain" comes to mind.
No, this is about going though some shit (or stuff depending on who it belongs to). Either way, it takes a strong stomach.
Loco didn’t want to go there (in his wisdom, he said so in his comment-response). That's right. He didn’t want to go there. And bless him, he doesn’t have to. Hopefully not ever. Nothing but respect for that man.
RinKat took a peek and commented on how that was one of the most depressing things she had “ever” seen (I think). I say with the utmost respect, coming from her, for her to make that observation, says a hell of a lot. Anyone who can survive and thrive in her world has got to know about life.
Corinne? As promised, here it is.
But before anyone clicks without thinking, you’ll need to “brace yourself” because it is dark and ugly. At the same time, it is very beautiful. But any thoughts or memories about beauty need to be put to bed for a while. And I’m not about to quote Dante, because there is hope… if you are patient.
In 2006-ish, an article was posted “Sexless Japan – Really?”
The article was so powerful that over the life of the post, which is still there (don’t look it up…we’ll go there is just a minute), the responses are now over seven-hundred. Yes, over 700.
Contents of those comments are very raw. If you want to jump, it’s okay, there is what I call a metaphorical bungee cord. Just because I endeavor to be an honest person does not mean that I am a cruel person.
Quite frankly, considering the amount of envy the kryptonite-carrying that the arch nemeses of Charisma Men carry… ladies (and wymyn), you have no need to carry around all of that baggage…really. I'm not trying to be polite or chauvinistic either. You may even find yourself laughing while you read. Laugh. Laugh hard, till you are teary-eyed. (Because you’ll need it.)
Now I’m going to say something that is not very polite. But it is something that does appear to be true…if you just look at the numbers. Yes, there are actually numbers, but not big ones. One number is around 15, a number on a survey (
explained later...if I get around to it). Satisfied?
Okay. Raw truth is…this article applies to virtually everyone I’ve met in this country, family included.
A recommended approach to reading what is on the other end of the link is to follow Plan A or Plan B.
(The article does have a useful color-chart. Wonder what color you fall into? Want to know how you compare to the data collected?)
PLAN A: Read the original article from top to bottom. Then go to Comment 14. Read it. Does it touch a nerve? Does it make you want to call this 'bullshit'? Either way, you might want to go back and start reading through the comments from top to bottom…all the way to the bottom. (If you get there, I can throw down a rope for those who want to climb back out. Unless, of course, you can manage on your own.)
PLAN B: Jump straight to Comment 14, to test the waters, so to speak. If it’s too uncomfortable, get out. And run. Don’t look back. Double-plus good, SEP. Otherwise, if you start to recognize any of this, go ahead and read the article and the comments. All the way down.
Virtually all of the questions raised in the comments were eventually answered… that’s the rope, which isn’t going to be thrown down for a few days, not until I’ve got feedback.
Are you sure you want to actually jump into the abyss?